Dr. MOTR is in - jon and kate plus suck it up

I have to say, in the past, I haven't been a fan of this family. However, in light of recent events, I'm enthralled. Not enough to watch the show - I don't do that - I don't watch in hopes of a trainwreck. But I've seen her on the morning show circuits and I'm so impressed with her raw honesty. Enough that today, I actually bought a copy of the People magazine so I could read the article, rather than to happen upon JulzHOLLA!'s house, cuz I know she gets her People mag on Fridays. Some things, I just make a point to remember.

"Hey, what's up. I brought you a Sonic drink. No....no reason...just in the hood....what's that? Oh is that your new magazine!? Mind if I take a peek? Here, watch the kids a sec so I can read this whole feature article, will ya?"

Nope, didn't do that...this time. I got my very own copy and read it asap. Again, I'm impressed with her honesty that she's confused, and it's crazy and she doesn't know what to do. If you haven't followed this, the last of this couple's worries is that he's been accused of having an affair. He's unhappy, she rolls her eyes and keeps working for the family.

So, last night, I went ahead and watched the season premier. I was one of the millions of suckers. I have this theory that all this havoc is to promote their show. And I totaly fell for it. The show though, was sad. Really sad. And as much again, I appreciate the reality and honesty of the show, but what I saw, I have the solution for.

So, Jon and Kate - here you go:

When I had kids, the best advice I got was to always remember to take care of each other. Perhaps you should consider that.

The thing is, this has gone from multiple birth phenomenon to a marriage falling apart because the husband and wife have different needs and wants. They are now growing distant. And that's a whole new level because every marriage can watch and relate.

Jon has done all these things and is still not happy because ultimately, he doesn't want the limelight. I'm guessing he wants that car though. And the hair implants. And he's probably enjoying the Kates boob job and tummy tuck, but whatever. You remember that wedding thing - where you promised to take care of each other til death do you part. Not till one goes on a different path, or one can't be happy, or when the tabloids make it all messy for you. Boohhoooohoooey. Poor you with your hair implants, all-expense paid vacation to anywhere, or you beautiful house and car. Awwww. Buck up.

And Kate, fame mixed with your already self-proclaimed control-freakness...not great.

Only you can be responsible for your happiness. I get that. If your husband is depressed, or becomes an alcoholic or anything like that, it's not your responsibility to fix them. HOWEVER, it IS your responsibility to get them the help he needs.

So, here's the deal. You sat there last night, and said you were there for the kids. You get up because of the the kids. You breathe for your kids. In essence, you just said in front of each other that your kids, not each other are your priority. It's become quite the proper to do everything for your kids. To make them number one. You don't love any one kid more than the other. So, why can't you love and take care of each other? Seeing as how that's what you promised you'd do at your wedding (both of them) and all. You guys need to stop taking a stand for your kids and take a stand for each other. Stop fighting each other's needs and help each other.

Why can't you prioritize for each other? Your spouse comes first in your life, and then TOGETHER, your kids are first. Please consider it. Both of you.

If this is your job, then hunny, it's time for early retirement. You've earned it. I'd love to watch you on tv,I like your honesty. But seriously -for your marriage - retire the show. I have calculated how much you have made just on doing the show. Your book sales can pay for therapy. If you're truly doing all this for your kids, they're college, your house, and that kick ass sports car are all paid for. You've made enough money. Told your story. It's time to work on your marriage and give your kids a regular life.

Quit everything and focus on your family which ultimately is solely based on your marriage. In doing all these shows and books about your family, you've somehow averted the very core of your family - each other. Buck up and stop hiding behind this "I love my kids and they are number one." and then a retort with, "No I love my kids. That's all I'm here for." Stop hiding behind your kids and work on each other.

It's worth working for. Do I think you can do it and keep up the crazy of your show and all your publicity? Nope. But something tells me, you won't take this stellar advice. And you'll end up on Dr. Phil.

And yes, it's easy to dish this fantastic advice out. Because it's been pretty smooth sailing over here in Momontherocks Land. But now it's fully documented, so if/when (I hope never, but I'm a realist) pooh hits fan over here, I can review my own clarity. I'll always make sure Ricardo is okay. And together, we'll make our kids our priority.

That's how I roll.