Some friends and even family at times have sent me fan mail. I know. I'm that good folks. I get fan mail. But mostly it's an inquiry about my other man, Ricardo.
"OMG, did you get divorced and remarry someone else!?" Pishaw. He's not getting away from me THAT easy. More than once or twice, I've reconnected with someone and directed them to my blog of infinite wisdom and delight, only for the response of "Who's Ricardo and what happened to HusbandX?" Including our lawyer. That must have been awkward. I'm sure the thought of "Neither of them called me to handle this" ran through his mind.
No. You see, Ricardo is not his real name. When I started this blog, I figured it would be best to only drag my husband into this brutal literature of comedy we call life at my house, if he had some kind of anonymity. He was okay with that, so in an effort to let him feel like he was even in control of THAT morsel of life with me, I let him choose his own name.
Why Ricardo? You say. Well, with every name, there's an explanation, I suppose. So, here it is. Back when I was in grad school, I had a professor who I worked with in statistics. Yes, don't tell anyone, but I secretly like statistics. So, ProfessorBrilliant (we're still pals and he's still brilliant) brought to my attention a little study he found that suggested the following:
In a black family, the mother is the one really in charge, calling all the shots.
In a hispanic family, the father is the one really in charge, calling all the shots.
And in a white family, the child is the one really in charge, calling all the shots.
If you think about it, off the stats, and in a social forum, this is very true. So, I went home and told Ricardo about it. I think I was pregnant at the time, so he wanted to change our last name to Perez immediately. But since we never did that, he gets Ricardo.
That's how I roll. With the one and only Ricardo. (So he THINKS he's in charge, statistically speaking.)
"And in a white family, the child is the one really in charge, calling all the shots."
That having been said......Name changing didn't change that.......Too many recessive genes running around there. Ricardo will ever truly be in charge, and neither will you. But then....it's the thought that counts. I think you take turns being in charge, and that's great. You lean on each other for support, and that's as it should be. Most people would be envious of the 4 of you.
XO