The other night I had another dream about my dad. It was a sad one, and I just woke up sad. I hadn't even had my coffee yet to neutralize the vodka. So, clearly, I wasn't awake enough to remember the dream or that I was sad, when my 4 year-old son came up to me and this is VERBATIM what he said, I kid you not. I have witnesses:
In his man-voice (He lowers his tone when he really wants to be serious): "Mommy, I'm REALLY sorry your dad died." I bent down and picked him up in a big bear hug. We stood there while the kid just patted my back so softly.
It's been a year and a half since my dad died. Max walked right up to me and said it, so sweet. So sincere. It was the sweetest moment of heartbreak and clarity.
That's how I roll.
It's true, and then a couple minutes later he came over to me and said "Dad, Are you really happy that your Dad DIDN'T die?"
Yes Max, I really am.....
Sometimes kids have a clarity that adults don't have. Olivia has said things out of the blue about a family friend who passed away. Almost like he was in the room with us and she was recognizing that. I believe in Angels and all that so maybe they communicate through kids sometimes. Not that Max is clairvoyant or anything. But he is exceptionally sweet and sensitive. He will make ONE of my girls a great husband some day! Just when you feel really sad and low your child can pick you right up!
love, Julz
I think one of the blessings of children is this natural internal love that we sadly lose as we "grow up." They don't hesitate to share ALL their love with us and somehow they actually know it helps.
MOTR and Ricardo, I love that your children are so loving and caring because if Max is going to marry one of Julz's girls, then Lucy will most definitely be marrying one of my boys. That way we can all be one big happy family!
I'm also sorry your Dad died!! I love you and hope your sadness turns to joy!
And I'm so glad that your kids are so sensitive. You can take a bow for that. You guys are great parents!!!
I feel your pain. When Meghan asks questions it brings me back to '96 sometimes. I miss her alot, and M knows it! Funny how she never asks about my dad. Loads about my mom though. But tonight she was thrilled to discover some doll clothes she had put on her dolly were made by "nana". I think it made her happy to know she could be close to someone she never met just by having something she made!